Yes, it seems like he’s taking his anger out on you, not so much for anything you did, but because he’s angry and you are the closest punching bag. What can you do to ease this anger? Maybe have a conversation with him and make him feel heard, maybe apologize for whatever he alleges you did.

I’ve had a terrible incident that drove away my son recently. It was him callously turning on his parents, then justifying it by saying we were bad parents. He mustered up only two reasons as justification, issues that never were at the time. Only in hindsight did he decide we were bad to ease his conscience for treating us very good parents horribly.

Even though the incident was a shyt show, I have slowly reached out often and we are on a bit better terms. So, my son, who was truly wonderful and we never had one ounce of conflict, went to college and got turned against his parents. It was an ‘okay boomer’ individuation on steroids thing. We weren’t even demanding parents, but somehow got hated for everything our generation stands for. He did something so hurtful to us, I can’t even say.

Keep praying and trying if you want a better relationship. If you really fear him, protect yourself.

Also, since you mentioned MI, at one point my h told him ‘you know Mom has emotional issues, please make this one and only small concession so we can attend your wedding, he said “No special treatment for MI” and he refused, so we didn’t go. How’s that for a shyt show?