It is true that very often guys lose interest in a girl if she shows more initiative, if she always agrees to everything if she shows more attention to the guy than he does to her.
Of course, there are exceptions, but I have met only those guys who are not serious about such active girls.
Maybe men want to be "hunters" who make an effort to get what they want, that is, a relationship with a girl.
Next time you have a new boyfriend, let him be in charge. Be a mysterious, hard-to-reach girl. You'll see what comes out of this, maybe you'll like it.