Yeah, that's the thing -- the problem with this potential new arrangement is that it disincentivizes me from being honest about those issues if they do arise. I don't really think he thought that through.

Also I honestly don't know if I plan to move back to this city after a year of fellowship. I just don't. This is supposed to be the one seriously good thing about being so ugly and off-putting that no one will in love with me and pop out a couple of kids with me: I can go wherever the eff I want.