Boy do i stir up a lot of trouble LOL. I am with Lenny, it all depends on the individual. I probably did not express myself well. The "skills" thing simply represents my desire to give pleasure to others, I am most excited by the way others respond to my actions. If my partner is not enjoying everything I do, then I am not satisfied either.

The endurance and recovery thing is partially just freak genetics and partially a deeply seated resentment of critism and failure. I have very low SE when it comes to dating, marriage and relationships. So when when I was younger I focused on performance. I wanted to be the most knowledgeable and technically gifted lover anyone could be with.

So now it has all backfired on me, there an admission, one can go too far with anything, even if it is a good thing. And now I am left with this unfulfilled near obsession.

I hope you guys can forgive me for having this aspect to my being. I agree with everyone's various points to each his or her own.

Thanks for understanding and accepting my weirdness

Love to you all

TJ