Good articles Tisha. This is right from first article.

“How to stop trauma bonding:

Always take your time to get to know someone, find out their past.

Never jump straight in because it feels good.

Look out for the red flags of abusive behaviour, such as feeling pressured or controlled.

Ensure you can be respected for your boundaries (say no).

Make sure what you see is what you really get, no hidden truths that come out later.

Be careful that you are not being sold a charming person to reel you in and hook you.

Be careful when all the ex-partners are crazy, nothing is their fault, or they’re the victim.

Be aware if you feel they’re too good to be true or make you feel amazing.”

Hope, it sounds a lot of what you experienced with your husband, hopefully soon to be ex