Early in therapy with my current T, the specter of a past psychiatrist I saw for counseling during my first year in college kept coming in the room with us. I had been very close to this man and then ended our relationship abruptedly. I never told him how much he had meant to me or thanked him for being there during that volatile time in my life. So my current T suggested I write him a letter, not to send him, as I don't know where he is now, but just for myself so I could tell him what I felt back then, how grateful I was, and how much I missed him once we stopped seeing each other. So I wrote the letter and it really helped. I wish I had been able to tell him way back then, but I was too young and didn't know how to do things. Once I wrote the letter, he stopped coming into the room with me and T and we could just continue on our own and form our own relationship.

I have not told my current T thank you, but hope to some day. I strongly believe I will not terminate our relationship abuptedly as I did with the psychiatrist and my counselor immediately previoius to the T that I see now. I feel I have grown enough to now end relationships well. I hope.