We had specials cards of ideas that we both like (ie. breakfast in bed, movie night, plan an at home date night, we had 52 ideas) We would blindly pick one each every week to do for the other and then put it back. We did it even when manic or depressed just to show we care even if we're being asses to each other. We are both in therapy and have joint sessions occasionally. Are you in therapy? Treat him like you would a friend who's in a bad relationship. that extra care you would give them. I'm sad to say this is probably not the last time this will happen. We have a 6 month rule, Fine you feel X way if you continuedly feel that way for 6 months then we'll talk about it. So now I say stuff like I feel trapped, I feel controlled, I feel instead of I want a divorce. Every time I say I want a divorce, now. I have to call and talk it over with my therapist and I'm still not able to do it until 6 months is up.

My husband was/is controlling at times because he's scared for me. Those times he's had to stop encourage me to talk to my treatment team or hospitalize me. He had to learn from my treatment team he sucks at being a treatment team and that's not his job. His job is to work with my treatment team and love me unconditionally. I have a list of if I'm doing X,Y,Z, he's allowed to call my therapist and inform her but that and making sure the basic bills are paid are his only job. You're husband is probably scared, doesn't know what to do next time this happens. It shook him. Have him go to a therapist alone for a little. Ask him to go 5x.