I don't think being alone is bad. It's a good opportunity to improve the relationship you have with yourself and find out what it is you really want out of life.

It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship. It's still your responsibility to make yourself whole. I think that's what my problem was with past relationships. I expected the other person to "complete me," make me whole, and keep me happy.

I was around the age of 30 when I gave up too. I resigned myself to the fact that I would spend the rest of my life without a partner. A huge burden was lifted because I no longer had to waste my time searching, only to be disappointed with what I found. I took a closer look at my own life and realized it was pretty good.

Be warned though. If you get to the point where you are completely satisfied with your own life, you may experience some side effects. It can make you more attractive, and you just might find the love of your life. I say this because that is when I met my husband, and we've been together now for 20 years.

I think when you are actively looking for a relationship, you give off vibes of desperation that can push others away. It flashes an invisible warning: "Caution, this person might suck the life out of you." What attracted me most to my husband was the fact that he was perfectly content with his own life. He didn't need me to fix him, and he had no intention of "fixing" me. As a result, our love grew naturally.

I hope you'll be able to find your peace of mind, regardless of marital status.