Insane Max,
Your post seems to reflect that we are different and our therapeutic relationship/approach to therapy is different. The nice thing is that is OK. The amount of contact earthmama has and the ground she has covered may seem too intense or too quick for some people, but it might be exactly what earthmama need at the moment. The fact that she has been talking with her T about it, is reflecting on it, and deciding for HERSELF if she needs to slow down or change the frequency is important. At least I think it is.

I liked this post because it shows that PC is a good place to consider and work through your options. The comments in this thread were good reminders to me of the wide variety of ways therapy is done. It also reflects that others often struggle with setting the pace of disclosure and finding the right "dosage" of their T that they want, need, or can have. I struggle with this issue a lot and its nice to know that I am not alone.

As for concept of testing the loyalty of our T's... this is also in my opinion a very individualize thing. I do not believe that I ever communicated with my T for the purpose of TESTING her. If I am testing anyone, it is me and my ability to push aside my mental noise and learn to communicate when I need to.

Insane Max welcome to PC, hope you continue to share your insights here.

Earthmama,

Do you think you are testing your T to see if he will be there when you need him? I know Riptide mentioned this, but I didn't get that from your (Earthmama's) post. I interpreted your original post as being about you...how much you are leaning on your T and trying to figure out if you were being too demanding. Is this correct? If, so has it helped at all?