If you are trying to work on your own addiction issues and want to improve your life then you have to distance from others who engage in alcoholism and addictions and using these methods to cope. First this is NOT coping but choosing to engage in denial. And also escaping responsibility.

In order for you to commit to taking responsibility for your life you need to be with others that are doing the same and support you while you learn to face your life and grow as a person. Alcoholics do NOT understand true friendship and they lack boundaries and ability to accept criticism. It’s hard to see someone who has been a friend have this problem. Yet it’s simply not appropriate for this friend to put this burden on you.

Alcohol is no cure for depression as it is a depressant. Alcohol use does NOT aide in solving problems but instead creates problems. No person actually FUNCTIONS with alcohol use, especially not alcohol dependency.

Your friend has relationship problems because she doesn’t function normally in relationships while using alcohol. And she doesn’t respect your boundaries and she is not being your friend. It’s ok to tell her she needs to stop drinking and using you. That is what she is choosing to do. That is the lifestyle choice of an alcoholic.