I'm so sorry that your parents and friend harass you so much about jobs that you resort to lying. I will emphasize the word "harass".

As an almost 50 year old (only half a year or more older than me), I say that decisions about you working (or not) are only between you and your husband. It is good to read that your husband at least understands and supports you in seeking an opportunity that would not be destabilizing.

As for coming clean or perpetuating a lie, I would lean towards the coming clean. If your parents and friends again harass you, you may have to tell them it's time for them to respect your and your husband's decisions because they are no longer mommy and daddy. You are more than an adult and you and your husband obviously know better what is best for you. You may even want to tell them that firmly. I would think that if they continue the harassment, they may find themselves left out of the loop more and more. Basically, "Enough if enough!" in terms of their pressure on you. "Enough!"