Nope... any long term relationship isn't black and white. Seems to me the dynamic is a little less black and white and a lot more gray. We both participate.

I'm a big believer in fixing yourself to fix a relationship... and if you don't fix the relationship... you've saved yourself and are happier for it. But, and here's the crux of the matter for me... starting relationships is so darn much fun... but the long term satisfaction is working it out. But where do you really draw the line and say "enough is enough, this is killing me... we each have our problems... and there are really three entities here... you, me, and the relationship?"