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sarahsweets · Dec 12, 2020, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Open Eyes

The one thing individuals who have this challenge get good at is DENIAL. However, they also tend to BLAME OTHERS when things in their life get too challenging for them be it at a job or in a relationship. They may CLAIM to have empathy for others, but truth is THEY DO NOT, instead they tend to be extremely wound up in their OWN emotional challenges. And as they NEVER learned how to deal with their emotions, they turn to ALCOHOL as their method of COPING.

I disagree with some of this. I have always had empathy and never denied my alcoholism or the hurt I caused. If anything I was harder on myself. It was the physical addiction that was hard to break as I was already in therapy the whole time I was drinking.

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An alcoholic learns how to take steps to AVOID being detected. They often choose VODKA as they believe that VODKA is not detectible on their breath.

Nope. I was a merlot girl- three bottles a day. I oozed alcohol and knew it.

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There is NO TRUE RELATIONSHIP when it comes to this disease, that's because the TRUE RELATIONSHIP IS WITH THE ALCOHOL with the alcoholic. It is also not uncommon for an alcoholic to choose a partner who is also an alcoholic. And FRIENDS are not real friends, but instead others who drink and party which gives the alcoholic a form of company.

Again this may be your experience but it isnt mine and from my meetings its not the majority. I have a wonderful husband of 25 years who never drank or did drugs. All of my friends are "normal" and sober. Even when I was drinking was one of the only ones. My relationship with my husband is very true- in fact literal love at first site and I wasnt always an alcoholic.

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Often a person has to hit rock bottom, no job, no partner, and being alone WITH THEIR BOTTLE OF ALCOHOL if they can even have enough to get that bottle for them to finally admit that this disease has destroyed their life and they need help.

My rock bottom was weeping at 4 in the morning and I had full support of my entire family.

Sure denial is a big part of addiction but it is with just about anything uncomfortable within ourselves. Denial over being too fat, too thin, too dumb, too ugly, a million things. Some of us accepted it completely and so desired a change but were physical slaves to it.