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Old Dec 12, 2020, 10:18 AM
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I would be honest about how you feel with your T. Mine was debating whether to take Christmas Eve through the Sunday after New Year's off, or to work a couple days in the week in between. I tearfully talked about how I worried about his time off, as I've been seeing him 3 times a week since not long after the pandemic started (twice a week before that), and I worried about going 11 days without a session (he often will have a T on backup, but I doubted any of them would be working then either). I apologized multiple times, saying I felt like I was being selfish in saying that, as he hasn't taken more than a day off since the pandemic started and he deserves time off and I know he needs self-care to be a good T. He said I wasn't being selfish, that he saw it as me speaking up for what I need and looking out for my mental health (or something like that), which is a good thing.


He also said that because he's not traveling anywhere, it would basically just be sitting at home with his wife and son for all that time. So he wasn't sure if he needed that much time off. His current plan is to work the Monday and Tuesday after Christmas, which made me feel a great sense of relief. He said there's a slight chance he'd change it, but plans to stay with that.

But I think it helped me to get out what I was feeling. And I imagine your T would be understanding as well. You should be able to talk about your feelings with him. He may not feel guilty, like you said (and I don't think mine does either), but he could still talk about your feelings. If he doesn't realize how worried you are about it, it will be more difficult to come up with a plan.
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