Thanks YaoWen. He made me feel like something was awry with me when it was the other way around. I have read that is what they do. I hated admitting I was a victim when it ended. I was revolving my whole life around him, thinking I owed him, because he stuck with me through a harrowing time. I had nothing left to give, and he still made me feel like I was worthless. But my family just saw this blue eyed gentleman who visited me when I was in rehab as a teen. If he visited me in rehab, he must be a keeper they thought. If only.
YaoWen, he almost left me homeless too when it ended. I had to quit my job because I no longer had a car. The one my parent's helped me buy when it ended was on it's last leg's. I had no money or possessions to speak of even though I worked hard. He took all he could and left me an emotional wreck, thinking I had not given enough. When in truth, I had been neglecting my own need's by putting his first because I was frightened of him and what he would do.