When I began this thread, I wanted to do so with respect for this disease as I mentioned. Yet, in my own life I have suffered due to someone in my life that had a problem with alcohol. Because of that there are times where some personal anger comes out not so much for the person, but for how this disease affects that person and how their disease and behaviors affected me personally.

With that, I am not trying to come off as a professional or know it all. Instead I have had to learn to understand this problem and I even reached out for help with therapy too. @sarahsweets, I appreciate your perspective too because you have had the challenge personally so you offer a different perspective.

It's complex because people with different challenges can develop alcohol use disorder. A person can have an underlying social anxiety challenge, or have bipolar and begins using alcohol only to become addicted. A person can have a personality disorder and use alcohol to cope and develops a dependency problem. There are narcissists that develop alcohol dependency. So it's not a all X's are because it's actually more complex and the only thing that is common is the progression of the disease and the damage it causes to someone physically and psychologically. These changes can be very hard on the person who is the child or the spouse or family member.