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Dec 13, 2020, 07:33 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by Soupe du jour
I'm so tired. My brother and I visited my Dad earlier, but then soon after I returned home I got an email from my brother saying that my talking about my move to our dad makes him anxious and want to leave. Yes, I did notice that behavior during the visit, but what am I supposed to do? I am moving. It will happen. Should I pretend that it isn't in front of my father? He'd not a child! I understand it will make him sad, but I'm sad, too. And I'm the one facing a major change in my life. Frankly, my family has done very little to support me during this whole stressful process. Yet I'm supposed to start feeling guilty about my dad being sad I'm leaving? That's his issue to process. Adult children move away all of the time. It's nothing that odd.
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Well, I've been there (am there)...a parent with a child/ren that move away, even to another country. It is hard, no doubt about it. But, like you said, it's common. And it's not just common in modern times! Think of all the pioneers that left the east to move west. Most of them left their parents and never saw them again. Letters were the only communication, and they were rare.
I sure do know how it feels not to have family support. It hurts like hell. 
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