Well the way I see it is that when we start dating someone we should treat it as “what you see is what you get”.

Too many people, and especially women, date men who don’t meet their expectations. Then they “bring up the issue or they have a serious talk” etc and they might be doing it for years after but a msn is still who he is.

If at 42 his mom limits his screen time, that’s who he is. Having a talk with him won’t change him or his life style. You just have to decide if he is the right person for you (the way he is now not how you think he could change). Then you decide to stay or go based on what you see now