Caregivers tend to be thoughtful people, however, that can become their life where they constantly service the needs of others. They often learn to put the needs of others above their own needs. This becomes their lifestyle which is what you are observing in this man you are dating. His mother has become dependent on him and she also still controls what time he spends away from her needs and wants. He has already agreed to put HER needs first and has been showing you how there is little time left for you and any relationship he could have with you. And his mother will not like any woman that threatens her relationship with her son, she doesn't even like him using screen time.

When human behaviors are studied they often use rats. It's amazing how much they have learned from rats considering how small a rat's brain is compared to the more complex human brain. They have introduced rats to different mazes and have put different reward places in order to encourage the rats to follow these different mazes. They can even observe stress if something changes in that maze the rat gets so used to. They have even paired rats up and introduced a pattern and then took one away to see what would happen. Sure enough that absence left the now single rat still doing things as if that other rat was still there. It took time for that rat to learn to adjust without that other rat. Also, if a rat is used to a certain kind of maze routine and then taken out and then exposed to that maze routine again, that rat will go back to navigating that old maze again. That is even when there are obstacles that can stress the rat.

Human beings do the same thing, they often choose the wrong partner because something about that partner is "familiar". Often what pops up as "red flags" are ignored and it's actually amazing how observing others interact when knowing these red flags and seeing others interact advising a person ignoring these important red flags.

This guy has good qualities, however, he is actually showing you that even though he is nice he is actually already TAKEN. You are learning that his true priorties are with his mother and she always comes first and there just is not a true place for YOU that would allow you to enjoy this man.

Choose to be "self aware" and any tendencies you may have that attract you to a partner that would be unhealthy for you. If you are yourself a caregiver type personality, it's important you pay attention to what might attract you that can be something that doesn't allow you to have your OWN needs met.