I am sorry

I could understand if she decided to not do anything at all like just be home alone and perhaps suggested that you two hang out together for New Years or something.

I understand skipping holidays but its not what she is doing. She will spend Christmas with a friend, just not with you. I’d be very hurt.

I’d understand if you want to distance yourself from this friend or depending on the situation speak to her about your feelings.

But people don’t change. That’s how she is. She won’t change. Maybe if she was a young girl. But if that’s who she is in mid 60s, that’s who she is

I totally get how you feel. I’ve met few women in life who routinely cancelled without consideration (usually “boy crazy” women who rearrange their entire lives and ditch their girlfriends to be available for a man, any man). It taught me to be very selective about friends.

And sometimes friendships dwindle with time and it might be time for them to go.