Liz you aren’t in the wrong.

Maybe this person believes that treating others poorly is justified because her life is a mess or because she refuses to seek proper help or what not. But her believing so doesn’t make it true. Yes some people believe that they are within their rights to treat others poorly because they are miserable. Thats not how life works.

She isn’t a child. There is a concept of personal responsibility for one’s words and actions. Seems a foreign concept for this lady

she is in the wrong here. And you don’t need to put up with such behavior.

“Teaching cat a lesson”. That’s rich