I'm wondering why the goals of YOUR therapy have become the goals of the therapist's instead.

You're right in that not all those with DID have to fully integrate. You're also right that it can be a very tumultuous time.

I understand your hesistancy.
Why do you say that your T can't handle this?

If I'm correct, the author of When Rabbit Howls never fully integrated, and yet lives a full life in Tampa, FL.

Yes, time to have a good sit down discussion about revamping the goals of therapy, imo.