My husband (soon to be ex) is a narcissist. I suffered narcissistic abuse from him.

This I have identified through my therapy and education on abusers, the various types of abusers, and on what I personally experienced.

He matches NPD to a T. He may even be a psychopath - he not only lacks empathy, but he seems to lack a conscience.

He stole from me once (claiming later that he KNEW what he was doing was WRONG), he stole once from a store, and then he cheated on me in the end, in knowing that cheating is the ONE thing that would harm me the very MOST.

We had at least 100 discussions about cheating throughout our ENTIRE MARRIAGE. He repeatedly PROMISED me that he is "not wired to cheat", that it is "not in his DNA", that he "never thinks of other women", that I never "have to worry about that with him", and that he would "never ever cheat" on me.

He also knew FULL WELL of my past history with cheaters and he KNEW 100% how hurt I had been and would be, if he ever did this to me. HE KNEW.

SO what he do? He goes and cheats on me!

He claims it was out of anger towards me because I had called the police on him one night. I called the police because I was SCARED of him. He was raging at me YET AGAIN. Yet, he plays the victim - and then retaliated.

Once he had told me that he was gaining pleasure out of pissing me off - my mother told me that that is in fact, SADISTIC behavior.

So, was it also sadistic that he cheated on me, given it was the ONE thing he KNEW would destroy me? Was that sadistic? What IS that?

Whom did I marry? Did I marry a psychopath? I know he's a narcissist.... how do you know if someone is also a psychopath?