I am not saying it’s not important to identify or label. If you find it important for your recovery, it’s important. It’s just hard to tell exactly what’s his problem to be sure. That’s why I felt focusing on certain behaviors might be more important. Of course I could be wrong

Some of the things about your husband seem to be different than other narcissistic people I’ve met (I have my share of those including (as me and my brother suspect) our own father). Some things about your husband don’t point to that direction based on my experience with narcissists, men in particular. Some things do