He COULDN'T pay for anything unless he earned his bonus. He was unable to - therefore he was dependent on me and every other woman financially. Remember that he went BANKRUPT as well. And he works on COMMISSION ONLY. He does not earn a steady paycheck and he's completely irresponsible with money. He DID, however, pay as much as he could when he did have money around. He treated me fairly often.

And I'd rather not argue this point of whether he is or is not a narcissist. It's not relevant to my question. I know he is a narcissist and that I dealt with narcissistic abuse - perhaps it does match your model, but it matches everything I've read and my therapist even confirms it.