You know I am thinking now if he was a sadist he’d be cheating in the open. He was hiding and likely didn’t think you’d find out?

I actually have two childhood friends whose husbands cheated in the open. One brought women home. She just had a baby and had no place to go, he had sex in the other room with her at home. Terrible. That’s sadistic. And the other was periodically visiting his ex wife for sex and didn’t hide it. Talking about sadistic

Yours was hiding and plotting behind your back. Was it different from psychopathic?