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Originally Posted by divine1966
You know I am thinking now if he was a sadist he’d be cheating in the open. He was hiding and likely didn’t think you’d find out?
I actually have two childhood friends whose husbands cheated in the open. One brought women home. She just had a baby and had no place to go, he had sex in the other room with her at home. Terrible. That’s sadistic. And the other was periodically visiting his ex wife for sex and didn’t hide it. Talking about sadistic
Yours was hiding and plotting behind your back. Was it different from psychopathic?
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Hmm... yes, he may have thought I wouldn't find out. Or, perhaps he did not care if I found out.
At the same time, I heard from him in at least 100 conversations (no joke) about cheating that: "you don't have to ever worry about that with me", "I am not wired to cheat", "it's not in my DNA to cheat", and "I will never hurt you by cheating".
So then if it wasn't sadistic and vengeful because I called the police, then what was it? Was he pulling the wool over my eyes ALL this time, LYING to me ALL this time, about NOT being a cheater, when in fact, he IS a cheater? He did become irrationally explosive sometimes when I questioned him on this topic - and very defensive!
It FEELS sadistic to me given all of our conversations about cheating AND given the fact that he KNEW it was the ONE vulnerability I have that would hurt and harm me the VERY MOST. He KNEW THIS.