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Default Dec 18, 2020 at 12:58 AM
 
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Originally Posted by ziggystarlord144 View Post
I've been going back and forth for a few months now on whether I should ask my mom about talking to a therapist (I'm 17). I keep deciding that I don't need it and it would just be a waste of everyone's time. I'm also scared that as soon as I ask she will put me into the same category as my sister (long story) and start treating me like a 4 year old, or act like I'll explode any second. Even if she doesn't do that I know she'll see me differently.

Either that or the conversation will turn into her asking why I don't talk to her. And she'll talk in the voice she uses when she wants me to know I've deeply hurt her which I don't want to deal with. If she'd actually listen to me and empathize a bit, I would talk to her. But in my experience she just talks like she's reading from a script of "correct things for a good parent to say" before making it about herself. Gosh this paragraph makes me sound like a jerk. Maybe I am and that's my problem.

I guess I'm just looking for the easy way out. I'd rather let someone else figure out my problems and tell me what to do rather than face them myself. (And also face no repercussions in the process.) I looked for a while for online therapy sources so my parents wouldn't know - another easy way out (at least it would have been if money wasn't a thing).

I don't know if the kinds of things that bother me are actually issues, or if I'm just looking for an excuse to get out of... well, life. I know there are things I could be doing to improve my mental health but can't seem to stick to them. If nothing else, a therapist would at least hold me accountable. But I also don't want to waste their time. Most of the things I think could be "problems" probably just boil down to laziness.

So, I guess my question is, is it worth seeking therapy if what I'm going through is just regular teenager stuff?
Welcome to PC and good for you that you want to keep working towards being the best you, you can be. I’m not a therapist or psychologist so not qualified to best answer your question. From my experience there are different kinds of therapists to seek or choose from, when a nephew whose a teenager needed help increasing his motivation to study and complete homework, he saw a health coach. If you are close to eighteen years old you may not need to ask parental permission to seek mental health therapy, but if you are on your parents’ health insurance then most likely you still will need to. You could start with asking your parent about seeing a health coach to help with methods and tips to improve your motivation. Good luck and keep being the best you, you can be.
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