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Originally Posted by lizardlady
I've come to some decisions...
I am going to talk to her about how I felt about the way she told me about Christmas. She may get pissed, she may not. I decided that saying something would assertive and standing up for myself. If she gets pissed so be it.
I said in my original post I'm tired of "making lemonade" because of the damned Covid virus, but I'm gonna make lemonade about this. The last few weeks at work have been exhausting. I'm worn down to a nubbin. Not going to her house saves me two days of driving this week. Because of a medical condition driving that far causes me a lot of pain and is exhausting.
I was waffling back and forth about putting up a Christmas tree. I was afraid of what the cats would do to it if I was gone for three days. I'm going to have a one person party and put it up. 
I'm planning a special dinner for myself on Christmas Day. Except for cooking I might spend the day sprawled on the couch napping.
I'm still hurt by the back handed way she told me about her change of plans, but I feel better for having made some decisions
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I think you made the right decision. If she wants to be with someone else, then so be it. Wouldn’t want to be at a place I wasn’t wanted. Also saying something is a good idea. Yes she may get mad, and judging by her previous behavior, she most likely will. But at least you will send a message saying that what she did was rude and that you won’t put up with it. I had friends in the past that had trouble being called out on and didn’t want to admit that they did something wrong. I’m not friends with those people anymore.