My husband and I have been married 13.5 years and now he wants a divorce. Things started getting bad when we moved to a different state for his work 4 years ago, he changed a lot. About 6 months ago he started pulling away from me playing more and more video games and just avoiding me altogether. About 1.5 months ago I asked him if he still wanted to be married to me and he said he didn't know as we have become more like roommates but agreed to work on it without marriage counseling (he said it was a waste of money and wouldn't work) so I agreed. I tried to get close to him for almost 4 weeks while spinning into a deep depression as he was colder than ever whenever I tried, eventually he stated his heart was not in it and he wanted a divorce and I agreed to it.

Now that things are in motion he is telling me he thinks he may have made the wrong choice while still filing for the divorce. He cries, tries to talk to me all the time (we live in the same house for now until I can move back to my home state), and has even tried to hug me. I tell him I don't want the divorce but he still went ahead and filed. I don't understand him at all and I feel like I'm slipping into a black hole. I'm trying to accept the divorce but he keeps giving false hope and it has really effected my anxiety while slamming in to a depression.

I'm looking for some sort of guidance as I'm so confused. I cry every day and I don't feel like I'm handling this very well because he is always contradicting himself.