I am not sure if it’s the same thread or a different one as I thought I already replied. If it’s your house you aren’t obligated to host anyone who behaves as poorly as this person. It’s not his daughter’s business who her dad dates.

Now of course everyone makes mistakes and she might improve. I doubt but maybe. You can give her a chance by meeting on a neutral territory and see how it goes and how she acts. Do not have rude people over. No way.

It’s your boyfriends job to put a stop to this nonsense