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i could not in any way comprehend how a T could care.. i called it rent-a-care. i saw it as some diminished, half assed caring that was tied to money. i feel awful about that now. i have come to know one of the most caring and genuine human beings i could hope to know. He cares about me and has gone above and beyond to show it.

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This looks to me like the beginning of a nice heart-felt thank you!!!! I know I wouldn't be able to share it with my T at this point either.

Jello I think we have both grown in our understanding of this "caring" concept. In my case Perna is probably reading this and saying THANK GOD, I don't have to scaffold for her yet again what a caring relationship is and why people might want to engage in one. :

Now if I could only grasp other related concepts: 1) I'm human and could possibly deserve to be cared for, 2) that it may be OK to want to be cared for, and 3) Not everyone who seems to care about you wants a piece of your soul (or body) in return.

I wonder if my T actually gets how totally confused I get sometimes by her actions?

Maybe what Pink was trying to suggest in starting this thread is that the people who spend so much time trying to help us feel cared for, might like or even need to hear that they are successful once in a while. Sometimes I still feel stupid about what I wrote in my Christmas card, but I'm glad I took the risk to write it. I least there was a slim chance that she liked, valued, or needed that positive feedback from me. At worst, I have another stupid piece of paper in my medical file.

Hey, thinking of thank you notes....is there a national or global therapist appreciation day? I think secretary (Office Manager/Administrative Assistant) day just recently past in the US. Do they have such a thing for therapists?