Hello! I am brand new to this forum. I’ve been trying to find somewhere to ask for some advice on my current life circumstance.

It’s such a long, complicated situation, so I’ll try and condense it.

I’m 27 and until 2 years ago, i hadn’t heard from my Father since I was about 9. I had moved to the States with my Mother when I was 9, stayed there for five years and then returned to the UK. During that time my Father had remarried and I had been told that my Father didn’t want me and his new wife didn’t want a ‘package’. So I had basically grown up thinking that my Father didn’t want anything to do with me, despite him living very close to me. Bear in mind that I had been told this information by my Grandmother, whom I currently live with

Anyway! What the issue now is that 2 years ago, I got back in contact with my Father and turns out I had been told lies. I had been a child that was caught in the middle of adult problems. He had always thought about me, and it was probably a very hard time for him.

I think I am struggling with processing all of this. To go from believing your Father didn’t want you, to finding out he did and he still loves you, is strange. It’s lovely, but strange. I also have to meet him in secret because my Grandmother would hit the roof if she knew I had see him. And, my Mother died when I was 15, so I am pretty alone in this situation!

I am happy that I can finally start to have a relationship with him, but I don’t know how to properly process all these emotions. How do I learn to love someone that I believed stopped loving me?

Thanks for taking the time to read and reply, if you do. Hopefully this is the right place to post it :-)