Kiya, I have a book called I Am More Than One and it is true stories of women with DID who lead productive and successful lives. It is inspiring and encouraging. I agree with others in this thread who have said that integration is not the gold standard of treatment anymore. Many people live successfully with DID and sometimes it is healthier to not try to force integration of all the personalities, perhaps just some or not at all. Everyone is different.

I think there is also having family/systems therapy among the parts to help them learn to work better together. Does your T do any of that? Do you think the destructives need therapy to help them not be so destructive? Do they ever come to session?

I know when a male protector ego state of mine was stepping more into the foreground with me, we had some clashes (the male and I) and T tried to do some "couples therapy" with us in session (although I was the only one present then) to try to get us to work toward common goals and make sure the male was reassured that he could still have other functions if his protector role diminished.

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I know that my aims have to match my t's aims for any good to happen.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I agree, Kiya, it would be a problem in therapy if your and your T's goals were at odds. Whose goals are more important?

I agree with you, Kiya, that you would not want to do anything in therapy to make you lose your hard-won financial gains. Could you work in therapy with the destructives to try to get them "on board" before proceeding with trauma work? What do you think the role of your destructives is? Do you think they are protecting you from the pain of reopening old wounds by being against the trauma work?

I hope you will continue therapy.