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earthmama said:
But the fact is, things come up when they come up. I don't understand how you think I can control that.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Things come up when they are ready to be dealt with. Trust your unconscious to know when you are ready. Those things wouldn't be "coming up" if you were not ready. That happened to me early in therapy (I was recovering repressed memories out of nowhere). T said it is very, very common. The memories and traumatic incidents just line up to be dealt with.

There are other reasons a client may begin to contact a T more outside of session than that therapy is too fast (one possible reason). For example, maybe it means you have learned to trust your T deeply and that could mean you can trust him to be there when you phone and email. I feel I trust my T a great deal, but yet I am not able to do "contact outside of session." I have a strong inclination to not let anyone know how needy I am so I wouldn't do that. Kudos to you for trusting T enough to be able to do that. So I wouldn't necessarily view your outside contact as a negative (sign you are going too fast). It could be very positive (a sign of how much you trust). Only you really know what it means. We are just throwing out ideas.