I've been broke and lived in a bad neighborhood before working 60 hours a week as an alcoholic coming home to a domestic abuse situation. Is that the kind of thing you are talking about? I felt like trash back then. I was angry and full of rage. I ended up breaking my hand twice 5 years later from the trauma that caused. I went to anger management and I learned you can take deep breaths as you see your anger escalating (once you are in rage it tends not to work). You can probably google the anger escalation cycle, square breathing and most of all you need to get to know your body when you are angry (I'm female and I mediate and trust me, this was about the last thing I wanted to do). For example I pet my eyebrow when I'm getting angry and raise my voice. If you understand that you are getting angry, you can control your anger with deep breathing and coping skills. Other coping skills are relaxing positive harmless things you like to do. You can find lists online by googling coping skills. For example I like to paint watercolors or if I'm super stressed I get out a thing of play doh. If it's an argument sometimes removing yourself from the situation is good. Take a walk. This helped me when I found my boyfriend with another woman. I told them to leave and I took a walk. Of course things need to change, but you need to change your reactions first. \ It sounds like your problem is political. Big or small anger management works.