he is who he is, does what he does, makes his own decisions on how his life runs.
you either have to accept him exactly as the man he is now or you end your relationship with him and search for someone that you can like for who they are right now.
we all wish people would transform into a person who is perfectly recreated into the person we prefer them to be.
thats fine if all you want is to control the strings of a puppet twin of yourself..
remember that a relationships require giving and taking by both people. how much would you be willing to let someone make you change about yourself because that will turn you into the person they want you to be?