Eugh why do they do that. I have experienced similar. I wish they could understand which bits of us were constant, permanent feelings or needs....and which bits aren't. I hate being asked what I need, then ignored. Or made to feel like I want to much, or that I am too much of a risk, or I'm not conscious enough or awake enough to know what I need etc. So tell me what I need then! But they won't. Sometimes I think therapists reset before their appointments, like each time is like they are meeting a stranger. Just to see what happens. I grow much faster when I feel loved and known.