Good questions sunrise...
no - they've not come to therapy yet... none of the destructives have, and very few of the others have... and never announced themselves or talked with t.

the destructives' work is to be an eracer - a silencer. the lowers are not as dangerous as the uppers. the lowers keep "the system in line" with the goal of the head unit to keep us quiet. if we go past them, then the uppers step in to erace us - to remove us, to keep us from ever saying. these are the goals of the head unit ,which tie in with the original abuser. it's like having the mafia living within me... you talk, you die. you try to talk, you suffer. "i could tell you, but i'd have to kill you" kind of mentailty. except the talking gets the speaker injured and (thankfully) not the listener. That's why i think that trying much without someone experienced in what the parts are really capable of could really endanger the body. I'll have to see if T knows about that family therapy stuff like you did. I dunno the parts would be willing... but it might be a start.

Sera -- yeah i will have to tell t that integration is probably not an option... at least not right now. I can try to tell her that about how most ppl know now that integration is not the end all, be all. I don't know if the destructives will ever be approachable.

Earthmama - I did sent t an email saying i was really scared about trauma work and she did say she would not force me. *whew*.