He isn’t going to take a responsibility or agree with your assessment of what was wrong. He isn’t going to. He admitted things in July to get you off his back. Going by what you shared he believes that you both at fault how things got off hand. You can’t make him think otherwise.

And it doesn’t really matter what he thinks. People don’t need to agree on why relationship is wrong. They don’t even have to both agree that it is wrong. I left people who didn’t think relationship was wrong at all. But it was not right for me.

If you two were able to agree on things, you’d not be apart now and sure wouldn’t have as many fights. You don’t see things the same. And I don’t see why it would change now when you aren’t together?

What does your therapist say? How could you shift your focus to getting things in your own life under control: job, file for divorce, healthier life style? How to take those steps?

I do get it how frustrated you are. But maybe, I don’t know, lock your phone in a car or something to keep yourself from texting. If you send texts under influence, you might say something you’ll regret. And he is likely saves them all to use for whatever he wants to use them for. Not sure for what but af the very least to humiliate you