I Think that some of us are born with the need to take care of others its what you live for and brings you happiness. Most mother are very much like this but in men its rare and I'm sure your wife loves it but like anything to much of a good thing is bad . It sounds that way you may need to tone it down abit.So yes I would look into it .

Heres what happen to me .I'm a very caring person been with my wife for 23 years .I did everything for here .I loved taking care of her but what I didn't see was she never learn how to do things on her own .She was 15 when we met so for all that time I took care of every need she had .But one day i got very very sick (Bipolar) And I could know long take care of my self less alone her or the kids .She fell apart but I didn't see it to it was to later she left me .Her mom and dad said they would take care of her and the kids but in the end that didnt work .(Its a very long story ).But the bottom line is I over protected her !!!

I know it not it alittle diffrent then whats going on with you but once again to much of a good things will turn bad .