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Old Dec 22, 2020, 04:33 AM
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Originally Posted by eskielover View Post


Just curious, IF the roles were reversed how yould you handle yourself if you were him with his personality?

Yea, my ex when I had a conversation with him 11 years after I left, admitted that he was sure I would come back to him after 2 years of living on my own. He said, when I didn't, he started thinking maybe he was the cause of my leaving. Like NO DUH!!!! The thing is that no one wants to believe they are at fault in a relationship breaking apart especially when they love to hold onto a victim role in their life.

By the time I left my now ex, I didn't give a crap about what he said to anyone or how anyone felt about what I did because bottom line, I WAS TAKING CARE OF MYSELF & that is all that counts in life when it becomes necessary for survival whether physical or emotional.
I cannot think from his shoes because I cannot relate to the NPD personality. He recorded me yelling at him one night, so he could easily use that against me somehow.

We have a shared social circle - what if he shares that recording with anyone from our circle? I will be humiliated.

I hate him. I truly hate him.
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