You screaming was an evidence of what? Of you screaming? Ok. You being angry? Who cares?

So he will tell your mutual friends that he’ll show them a secret video he made of you screaming? I mean most people would be like no thanks. And they will ask what’s wrong with him.

Are you intending to maintain relationship with your in laws? Are you very close? If not then he can show them whatever.

I do not think eskie meant you have to be understanding of him. I think she is saying that it’s not uncommon for people to expect that their exes will come back.

My ex significant other not only begged me to come back (I was the one left) but he also was convinced that I’d finally agree marrying him. But it made zero sense! I refused to marry and I finally left because he didn’t stop drinking. I meant he’d stop but he’d always relapsed within usually less than a year. His method was cold turkey with no help, of course he’d relapse!!! So now apparently I’d not only come back but I’d finally marry him? What for? why would I come back???

But that what happens. They don’t want to believe you left for good

He won’t give you validation. It’s like expecting water out of a stone. Not happening