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Originally Posted by Whereto52
I push myself to talk a lot of times too, but, like you said,it is really hard. Hopefully this will go away some day and will be just one of those specific social anxious thoughts that pop up for a few years and then just go away for while.
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Sorry for saying that but this not gonna happen.
You will have always the tendency to evaluate yourself your partner and the interaction itself. This is social anxiety. You can even get to a point to feel blocked up and need to avoid the situation as hell.
There are techniques that help a little though.
Are you seeing a therapist?
From my experience I can tell you that all helps. Practising mindfulness helps you focus on the present (just the interaction that it’s taking place), following a social progressive exposure therapy where there are gradual levels of difficulty in the social tasks you want or need to perform. Learning a little of social skills to help you with these interactions. Also it seems that group therapy helps, unluckily I still haven’t had the opportunity to do it.
It’s not easy or fast. Don’t expect a miracle. It will require effort.