I cry more sessions than I don't. Sometimes just tearing up a bit, up to all-out sobbing where I can barely talk. I feel it's a safe space where I can let those emotions out, to also have someone there witnessing and accepting them (as my parents tended to be critical of me if I cried or showed other negative emotion). Sometimes T will ask me why I'm crying, particularly if it seems to come at an unexpected moment. Generally, he just lets me cry (without comment) and we keep talking. Occasionally he wipes away a tear or two himself (though I don't say anything about that).


I find that my tears can sometimes help me realize what's really bothering me, what I may have trouble consciously realizing or admitting to myself. Sometimes it seems like something silly or random, but then when I dig deeper, it can be about something else. So I think it can be useful. But then there are other times when I'm talking about something pretty intense emotionally, but don't shed a tear. I think that can be telling, too.