It took me a very long time (several years) to feel okay about crying in front of T (it has trauma stuff attached), but now i just let it happen when i need to. Often it's only a bit of teariness and i can talk through it, but sometimes something deep comes up and i need to give myself space to have a damn good blub.

T's reaction can differ depending on what i'm crying about. He usually sits quietly so i don't feel like i need to shut it down. Sometimes he gets teary too (and i'm okay with that for reasons). Often he'll put his hand out for me to hold if i want to. Or he'll move the tissue box a bit closer if i'm getting really wet/snotty.

For me, allowing myself to cry freely in therapy is a marker of progress.