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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
Sorry for saying that but this not gonna happen.
You will have always the tendency to evaluate yourself your partner and the interaction itself. This is social anxiety. You can even get to a point to feel blocked up and need to avoid the situation as hell.
There are techniques that help a little though.
Are you seeing a therapist?
From my experience I can tell you that all helps. Practising mindfulness helps you focus on the present (just the interaction that it’s taking place), following a social progressive exposure therapy where there are gradual levels of difficulty in the social tasks you want or need to perform. Learning a little of social skills to help you with these interactions. Also it seems that group therapy helps, unluckily I still haven’t had the opportunity to do it.
It’s not easy or fast. Don’t expect a miracle. It will require effort.
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Yes, I know. I got the diagnosis when I was 15. At first(well for 5 years) I did not believe it and even convinced my therapists that my problems would not be about anxiety. I did not want it to be true because I would have literally taken any other mental disorder over social anxiety.
I tried many things already. Like working in a small store or going on big birthday partys and talk with as many different people as I could.
But I already read in other posts that social anxiety won't ever go away. Which is sad, I guess. It is not really the life I would like to live.
I got a few self help books which had a few good tips. Mindfullness was also in there but I don't really understand what the point of it is.
At the moment I am searching for a new therapist but if I go there depends on how much it costs because my insurance won't cover it. My last therapy was this year so I possibly need to wait till 2022. Or pay for it myself. Though I am a student which means money could be a bit of a problem.