im not understanding what the big deal is about you need sex outside your marriage.
the act itself shouldnt make or break a marriage. it is a "perk" .. it is THE sacred factor that the vow of marriage commits you to...
you are a married man. you have a wife. if you and your wife are no longer having sex with each other and you still need to feel the ecstacy of reaching climax... you cant handle doing that yourself why ? ... oh some religious mumbo jumbo is preventing you from doing that.... but yet you have no religious concerns about having sex out of wedlock... hmmm im curious, which religion it is that you claim you practice?