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Originally Posted by Marie123
I was married for 31 years to an abuser, so I understand your feelings. Abusers are excruciatingly insecure, and don't care what you say or think....The best thing you can do, is to stop responding when you hear abuse, and I know how difficult that is to do; abusers NEED you to constantly respond to their abuse; they are emotional vampires. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life and helped me immensely....to go forward and get the divorce. Do everything to keep yourself safe; become aware of the money issues, etc. See an attorney (first visit usually free); just to see where you stand, etc. If you are able, talking to a therapist can be most valuable.
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Thank you @
Marie123.
I actually blocked his number the other day after he continued to gaslight me.
Then I had to unblock him because email was proving to be too slow for communication. But it did the trick in the moment - it shut him up and stopped the conversation from continuing and it stopped him from continuing to gaslight and abuse me.
I have told one attorney that I will hire him. I am waiting for his retention agreement and invoice so I can pay him and move forward.
I do have a therapist and an abuse advocate helping me through this rough period.