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1) " However, some women find that they are always in a state of crisis. Their therapists may not have helped them develop ways to cope with their overwhelming emotions. If this is true for you, the therapy is probably moving too quickly. Or your therapist may be getting you to think and talk about the traumatic events before you are ready." (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health)

2) "Most therapy professionals agree that the standard and best approach for working with trauma survivors should follow these three stages:

stabilizing and managing responses
processing and grieving traumatic memories
reconnecting with the world

Abuse survivors need to find ways to manage their reactions to trauma before they can start to look at the causes of the trauma. This is the first stage of therapy and is normally the longest. If you try to complete stage two before completing stage one, you will not be prepared for the emotions that come with stage two. This may be harmful.

The three key tasks of first stage trauma treatment are: establishing safety, psychoeducation and managing trauma responses.

The therapist should use various ways to help you manage your traumatic stress responses and adaptations. These strategies will help you feel stronger and better able to cope, and find ways to care for yourself. While you may not stop or get rid of all your negative responses, these strategies should help you to control them better. "
(Centre for Addiction and Mental Health)


3) "Often, people in therapy are in a hurry to “get better.” But if you try to move too quickly in therapy, you can become overwhelmed. For example, you may start to explore your painful experiences before you are ready. Your therapist needs to teach you about the possible effects of moving too quickly. You need to work with your therapist to set a pace for therapy. "(Centre for Addiction and Mental Health)


4) "The client, who has not had the luxury of working up to a level of safety that would allow for therapeutic discussion of triggers, can find his/herself in considerable psychological distress with nowhere safe to turn. "

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As I said, it is fine that your T allows you that much contact. You were the one who posted about it as a concern stating that you felt overwhelmed inside (but are holding it together outside for your kids). My response to you and your statements is that it is indicative of a therapy issue. If your T chooses to allow you to deal with "the issue" by accepting the increased contact, than that is fine. That is your therapy relationship.